It is my belief that unless you've learned to love yourself and value yourself as God loves you that you really cannot love someone else fully. Yet some think that love is the full sacrifice of our own love rather than our own life. We cannot teach or prove our love to anyone else until they can see we practice great love against our own selves.
So I say all that to present one of my favorite pieces of poetry called "Love After Love" by Derek Walcott.
The time will come
When, with elation
you will greet yourself arriving at your own door;
in your own mirror
And each will smile at the other's welcome
and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger
Who was your self.
Give wine, give bread. Give back your heart to itself,
the stranger who has loved you
all your life, whom you ignored
who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,
the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Feast on your life.